What are microaggressions?  

A statement, action, or incident regarded as an instance of indirect, subtle, or unintentional discrimination against members of a marginalized group such as a racial or ethnic minority.

How can I respond to a microaggression?

If you have decided to respond to a microaggression, knowing what to say or how to behave is important. Most people feel negative emotions when they are confronted but there are ways to mitigate any tension in a positive and productive manner through healthy dialogue, humility, and empathy.

• Ask for clarification: “Could you say more about what you mean by that?” “How have you come to think that?”
• Separate intent from impact: “I know you didn’t realize this, but when you _________ (comment/behavior), it was hurtful/offensive because ___________. Instead, you could ________ (different language or behavior).”
• Share your own process: “I noticed that you____________(comment/behavior). I used to do/say that too, but when I learned ___________.

What if I commit a microaggression?

If you find yourself in a situation in which someone has approached you with a concern, here are some ways to handle it:

• Listen to the person’s concerns: Do your best to understand the impact you had on someone else and avoid saying you didn’t mean it or you were making a joke – this can come across as making light of someone else’s pain.
• Verbally acknowledge that their feelings are valid: Underscore that it wasn’t your intention, but also understand that it created a negative impact.
• Apologize and move on: The person you’ve harmed likely knows that you’ve acted on a stereotype. Your apology is sufficient acknowledgment of that.
• Commit to doing better in the future: Read resources. Talk with a support person (meaning, someone whose job includes conversation about DEI matters). Watch an educational film to heighten awareness and understanding. Work to notice microaggressions more than you currently do, your own and those of others.

Sources: Oxford Languages ,Tips to Adress Microaggressions, Epic Collaborative Advisors